Ode to Disappointment

Wow, it’s been a year since my last ‘official’ entry here…I wrote Fuck Forever last December, it summed up nicely, my journey up to that point, closing off some chapters that needed to be closed. Most of you know, I’ve taken most of my thoughts to Twitter and Instagram. I find engaging with readers and…

Fuck Forever

I’ve talked about this before in Expectations. Society, religion and culture continue to impose unrealistic expectations on us and we comply, over and over. One of the most common beliefs is that we need to find someone to spend the rest of our lives with, that forever person.  The pressure to do so, put on…

Tend-(HER)

My dear friend Lazim has ventured to online dating! This story is exactly how I felt when I first started online. The control you feel, the attention feels good, sometimes the sex feels even better…but that fades, quickly. There’s only so far the physical will take you. I don’t worry for her though, she’s taken some…

The End…of Luke

My dear friend Taylor sent me this update on her and Luke. It’s hard to see the people you care about in pain and the only thing you can do is sit and listen, tell them that you understand, but can’t take away the pain.  But no one comes into our lives for no reason,…

Where’s the Happy Fucking Medium?

Miss me?? I’ve been swamped with my business and life in general. So — Twitter has become a great way for me to get my thoughts and feelings released when I don’t have the time or focus to put on writing. But I wanted to write about this for a while. With work and family…

Hi, how are you?

God, I am so tired of being asked that question. It has become so over-used, that now — no one really cares what the answer is, because the answer is always, “Good, how are you?” With friends who truly are interested in how you actually are, it’s fine. On dating sites or from people you…

Lazim

Sexual awakening is not just a physical state, it’s chemical. It’s something deep in our subconscious, brought forward by a connection that usually only happens when you are more aware of yourself; the you before all the struggles life made you experience.  Lazim is a woman I know. Although we live a world apart, I…

Hunting Magic

It’s been a while. I’ve been aching to write something — anything! But I just couldn’t seem to get my feelings or my words right. I couldn’t get motivated, I felt blocked. I was feeling the same way towards dating. I was hopeless, impatient and frustrated. I wasn’t meeting anyone that could keep my interest…

Mr. Everything, But Not Ready

Taylor, (Jules’ partner from work) sent me her latest update. It’s honest, vulnerable and beautiful, just like her. I’m so lucky to know her and have her consider me a friend. Enjoy!   Swipe, swipe, swipe. The novelty of this stupid app is quickly wearing off. More one night dates with randoms…guys who look nothing like…

Enough

One year ago, I was searching. For what, I really had no clue. But I knew there was something I needed, something lacking. I started writing. I began to feel bits of the pieces come together and I think it’s because I found writing to be therapeutic. That release bringing me closer to what I was…

Karma, maybe?

The past few weeks have been insanely busy. I had a big project for work, a lot of travel ahead and some other life things. I’ve stopped spending time on Facebook. I spend more time on Twitter and IG because I find it a bit more entertaining. Anyways, I pop on every few days to see…

Worth The Wait

Sex in the 6ix has really evolved over the past 10 months. It has been wild and fun, scary and wonderfully intense, tragic and hopeful. All the while, bringing ME closer to who I really am and helping me find my passion, again. I started writing out these encounters – and about my thoughts on dating, sex…